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The way I want that handled is…just to break in. Break in and take it out! You understand? Go in around eight or nine o'clock. And clean it up. Haldeman, to break into the Brookings Institute, where he believed there were files that could be used to blackmail former President Lyndon Johnson. The conversation took place a year to the day before the Watergate break-in. Homosexuality destroyed them.
Sure, Aristotle was a homo. We all know that. So was Socrates. Do you know what happened to the Romans? The last six Roman emperors were fags You know what happened to the Popes? It's all right that Popes were laying the nuns, that's been going on for years, centuries, but, when the Popes, when the Catholic Church went to hell, in, I don't know, three or four centuries ago, it was homosexual. I don't want any of them around. Thank God we don't have any in the cabinet. But there are dishonest men in national government too. It's all right that Popes were laying the nuns, that's been going on for years, centuries, but, when the popes, when the Catholic Church went to hell, in, I don't know, three or four centuries ago, it was homosexual.
Billy Graham, the nation's best-known preacher agreed with a stream of bigoted comments Nixon made about Jews and their perceived influence in American life. Graham: "This stranglehold of Jews in the media has got to be broken or the country's going down the drain. So do I. I can't ever say that but I believe it. Every one of the bastards that are out for legalizing marijuana is Jewish.
What the Christ is the matter with the Jews, Bob? What is the matter with them? I suppose it is because most of them are psychiatrists. That's all. The next time we met at class he asked me if I would be comfortable to address him not in plural but by his first name which in greek is used as a way to show respect and also maintain a kind distance. I was not very comfortable but i said ok.
During the next lesson while in class at some point he sat next to me and told me that I could participate and comment as much as I want and told me not to hesitate. I was not stressed by that as I felt that it was trully a suppottive gesture and I felt appreciated. At the end of the same day he elaborated and told me that he considers me to be an equal partner in this class, that he is not the typical proffessor worried about ierarchy and power and that he considers me to be his equal partner in this collaboration. That night altough i was telling my husband what a cool guy he is not worrying about exercising power,I was feeling hyper and confused wondering and judging me for feeling stressed for no reason.
I was also sceptical about the fact that he also told the students that they can address him with his first name and not in plural, which I found very awkward and uneccessary, even hypocritical as it would be very difficult for a student to actually do this and speak to their professor the way they speak to their friends. My anger and frustration were raised when directly after that in the next class he stood me and the students up and we had to wait for him for half an hour.
I was placed in a difficult position, felt underestimated and had to wait with the students in a corridor unable to answer any questions about why we are running late as I was not informed. I felt that this was a power exhibition and it was totally opposite to his words. He appeard half an hour late but did not even say sorry. I was angry but unfortunately supressed it and this resulted in me having a panick attack during the class and struggling not to show. I was very upset and i felt unappreciated and insulted, taken for granted. The next time I had difficulty to go to class and I had to work hard with myself to find the courage.
I did go and there was another attempt to remove boundaries. I somehow managed to say that I am not so sure about thuis and at that point he told me to have a brief meeting at the end of the class. He was treating me like a child and a weirdo fir saying no to this opportunity. He was also sarcastic when I used plural agsin in an attempt to set some boundaries between us again. He was treating me like some nutcase and seemed disappointed when i was leaving so after a few hours I called and said i would do it. I regreted it the same minute.
Anyway he said he was going to call me the next day after speaking to the secretary to let me know the arrangments for picking up the classroom key and laptop. This was Friday and i am still waiting for his call! I am extremelly angry at him and myself for not sticking to my initial denial and I am very very frustrated and agitated, unable to sleep as I simply dont want to go in on Monday. I am very angry and worried. I know i am quite sensitive as I come from a family with serious boundary issues and i am constantly questioning if i am over reacting..
I dont know what to do as he is attending a convention abroad and i trully, really do not want to do the class on monday… but now i have said yes and how can I go back on this desicion. Also i am worried because all this behaviour is suported and related to his left political approach, so he is exhibiting this, for me, lack of stability and boundaries as a free and liberating framework when I believe that these are only wishful words and idealised thoughts and in reality the lack of boundaries produces stress and anger.
I dont know what to do. Felling scared, angry, guilty and questioning weather i am over reacting even if I feel I have a true point here. Thank you in advance for any help and comment…. Your boss is an ass.
He is rude, and is not a team player. People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. You are cutting him way too much slack. He is a weasel when he is not conducting himself as an ass in front of you. He needs a good kick to the nuts. My boss screams yells humiliates belittles me. All of the above. I feel mentally abused. I tried to talk to him many times.
The more I bring it to his attention the worst he gets! This is draining my energy. I come home to my family frustrated upset mad at everything because of him!!! Today I almost quit but when I got up remembered my family so I swolled my pride and say back. Is that normal????? I just started a job and my senior is so rude to me, always seeing the negative side, very controlling and wants things done in unrealistic times.
All is crisis and Urgent. She cannot handle or complete any task I have to do but I can hers. I do more the financial side like daily cash ups, which she has no clue about. She lied to me on Friday and I could finally give proof.
She told me our labour consultant said in his report that I did not see to the guests checking in. I just know this is not true and can confirm on our booking grid that we had no customers those two days especially cos it was our staff year end and we closed at 3. I do not trust her and lost respect in how she abusively manages.
The problem is she has spun lies to the owners and making coming to work unbearable. I actually like what I do and work hard and always keep smiling but with her depression and serious unhappiness will be ripe. I wish I could leave and watch her struggle alone. Maybe she will appreciate what people Contribute towards a successful business. Besides her turning alot of business away she is purchasing expensively and can bring costs down considerably. You are so demoralized that you want to quit so what does it matter that you do this?
The boss needs to clue in his wife, who will clue in this weasel about the ethical lapse in her behavior. You are in a strong position with your proof. Tell this to the person two ranks above your boss if they are too stupid to understand this. You have nothing to lose so this will be a huge relief to your psych. If it does no good then you will still feel better because the rude person will be much more on guard. If you stay further, you have nothing to lose by forming alliances. If they jettison you then you are free. I work at a local company and my boss mentally abusing me.
One day he called me gypsy. The Girl sitting next to me was shocked by his behavior, and she looked at me, like say something to him. I ignored him. Now he talk nasty things to me indirectly in front of other employees. I am looking for another work were I can be respected, and go home in peace at night, because this clown I work for, is not worth it.! I am also thinking in starting my own business from home cause I am tired working for paranoid mentally ill people. Most companies I have worked for, hire paranoid and rood people, who making you nervous.
Thinking their fright will make employees better workers. This kind of characters, are alcoholics, paranoid mentally ill people! Having paranoid lunatic as your boss, in your mind, is not work going to work! If you dont do that then it will never stop. If he is your typical bully he will not answer or walk away — he backed down. If he has a personal issue with you he may escalate what he said, but thats ok because he clearly doesnt respect you now and doing nothing about it wont make him respect you.
Since he has the gall to say rude abusive things in front of other people, even if it is not about you and you are still offended by it, you should have no regrets about taking him to task in front of the same people. It will put him on guard. If he retaliates, take him to task again, by going two ranks above his head, reporting the illegal workplace commentary that defames you.
Libel and slander are hard to prove but it will scare the hell out of this weasel, especially when you advise him that you are not a public person and therefore have actionable evidence for libel and slander. Hi there. I have been working in a very good orginsation for almost 6 years happily with my managers and work friends.
Till that bad moon day have arrived. A new boss just arrived. Well although I consider my self as survived employee with all the changes happend but with this boss I feel speechless and hopeless and my dreams just got killed. He always talk negative about any comments I made in meetings. Because I know how he is good to destroy my dreams every day and day. If any one can advise! That will Eas the pain that I feel …. Go two ranks above, their head, but not human resources.
If that person lives in another state, find them and advise them on the poor management, and how this will destroy the company from within. Is there a competing company that you can go to that is smaller than the one you work for? That may be your ticket.
Bullies are always bigger and more powerful than you. They have gotten away with it for many reasons, but the solution to this always works: find a way to stand up to their ignorance. If you can tweak them directly, especially in front of others, it will do everybody some good, because you will clear the air. Is there a way to form an alliance with the new boss? This has been done to me and when I form an alliance with them sometimes they will speak up and confess that they were hired to collect information on you to use to destroy you.
Turn the tables and do it to them. If the new boss then quits, you are back in the saddle. Well written! Well I can see your point. Its a sad fact, but I feel better after reading all of these posts. I am a nurse and currently work in an environment that is fine if you never open your mouth and just do what you are told. If you do question anything, or politely express your dissatisfaction with something…God forbid, look out.
And I am not one to not respond to these nasty, disrespectful mini attacks. I thought it was just me and maybe age. Too stressful starting a new position. Need to hear some ideas for just keeping my mouth shut, lol. Try looking into agency work. They pay well and you can keep your regular job until you are ready to leave. Many have insurance and k now. I had that situation and had 3 part time jobs. I work 2 days and twice a month 3 and make the same money I used to working full time. This is to Toooldtochange. Review your psychology notes from nursing school and get a good handle on recognizing these dysfunctional personalities.
Narcissists, or people having some of those traits are equally dangerous. This knowledge should help you steel yourself with stealth in dealing with these types. Anybody who embarrasses or humiliates you in front of a patient should be asked at a later point, away from the patient, who in the hell they think they are to grab notes or whatever they did in front of the patient.
Also remember that one doctor a day kills themselves in the USA. You are often dealing with suicidal maniacs so you could be helping the good doctor along with yourself. If you are too old to change, you have nothing to lose by taking them to task. If you are, you can threaten the hospital administrator to go to the hospital board where you can threaten the board to go public on these weasels. AFter they fix their tweaked and bloody noses, you will be in a better place, because you have nothing to lose. Good luck.
I had a put down boss who always gave negative reinforcement and ill comments about his staff. He seemed nice at first and then makes you feel guilty for not performing. He uses guilt for controlling employees. I got so fed up that I went awol. I got so depressed and felt worthless because of his daily ranting about our performance even though we did our best. I even considered harming myself. Now I know that I can always stand up for myself. No job is worth your life especially with a horrible psycho boss who pretends to be nice.
What if your boss has all 5 traits and people just keep putting up with it for years and he only micro manages people that do not need managing? Is it to make himself looks like he knows what is going on? In sports, why is it that a team that was in last place one year, does nothing to change the team, but changes its coach is in first place the next year or after all the damage is undone?
The new coach understood how to motivate human beings who are professionals at their craft. There are a lot of games I watch where I say to myself, how can anyone be so stupid? I am referring to the decisions made by the coach, and that coaches lack of leadership. Translate this to your workplace. Your boss is making a classic mistake: thinking he can be friends with staff and not have it affect staff. How can anybody be so stupid? Management above your boss has to be stupid if this is the status quo for a long time. On your death bed will you feel great that you never said anything to anybody at your company about this ass?
I think not. The manager keeps talking negatively with me and degrading the way I present information. My personalty is not rigid and he knows this and try to use it against me to show others how strong is he. I can feel that. Recently, he sent email and he altered my name. My last name for example is Jeffrey. In the email he wrote Mr. He makes the first letter small and put a space in the middle. Do you think I can use this email where he allitered my name against him? Is this a red lined crossed? I never react against him negativly but instead try to fix the issues and at the same time records in my notes all the insulations with date and time so I can open a case against him with his direct boss or with the personnel.
As far as the email issue, let it go. So choose your battles wisely and remember that while you may win one particular battle against this guy, you risk losing the war; i. HR may back you up for a major infraction but there are always multiple ways this jackass can retaliate against you. Because retaliation is strictly forbidden by HR, you had better not screw up in your work duties because guess who will be waiting to pounce if you fail.
About 10 years ago I had a manager who was a real tool who seemed to delight in humiliating everyone on our team. Yeah sure, our numbers sucked but he loved kicking people when they were down. Right after she called them, this clown immediately backed off. Ultimately, one by one we were all fired for not hitting our numbers but he did us a favor. I love it. I have forgiven my horrible bosses despite the bad things they said to me. However, it just goes to show that there are psychotic individuals who love control so much that they forget their humanity to insatiably try to fill their voids in life at the expense of others.
Frustrated Guy you have nailed it. The universe will take care of those bad bosses, and they will all be kicked in the nuts. Could be he was writing from his mobile phone? I am looking for jobs which cheers me up when I see there are many opportu nities. You will always make a living and get by. Hang in there. What to do if boss is less educated and he is a boss just because of long experience as by luck he got a chance to start up his job with a company and then he never left.
So I am a chef on a ship. So we have a rank structure on the vessel. However I can speak from experience that going to HR is not the best route to go. Even though they say it is anonymous it definitely is not. However this being said, I have a captain on our ship that is a complete jerk that falls under all 5 of those categories and more!!! I am a white man and the reason why I am saying this is because I have witnessed this white captain do completely racist things to my black coworkers and it obviously adversely affected me.
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Since I reported the incident he has done nothing but bully and retaliate for being reported to the company by a so called anonymous person which they told him it was me. Since then he has tried every way possible to make our work harder and much more difficult for the last year and a half. I feel you. Some people are indeed jerks. Are you the only chef on the ship?
Have you formed alliances with your black co-workers? Are you able to video him doing something unsanitary to the food? If you can make that happen, you are in the cat bird seat. You will be able to confront him with it. Instead of HR go to the Chairman of the Board of Directors of the parent company, after you buy stock in the company, and show him or her what you taped.
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Chris, I replied to you earlier but forgot to suggest a couple of things. First, a good kick to the nuts, second throw that piece of shit overboard. I have only worked at my company for 6 months. It was the first time this person had ever had a co-worker at his same level. He was nice at first, provided me some knowledge transfer on the customization of this large CRM.
We do software develop enhancements for a cloud based CRM, for internal customers. After a couple months, I noticed he was communicating with my customers without me, updating my notes, and doing some of the work, despite I was already working on these projects. I finally asked why he was doing it and he said he was just helping me. I needed him to provide more knowledge of what he had done and what he was doing, so I would better understand how people were using the system, etc.
He continuously withheld information from me, and it was a nightmare. Last month, he gave his notice. My boss knew he was being difficult to me. But I would bite my tongue. He left several projects unfinished and with no documentation. My boss instead preferred that he update a sharepoint site with what she thought would be valuable information in his last two weeks, but none of it helps me.
He naturally told me nothing about anything he did. I have never left a company with outstanding projects like that. I would never do that, but he did. I know he had many fans at this company, and I even think he was speaking ill of me. I also used to smell alcohol on his breath often. Our development consultant recently told me they could not do a project a business unit wanted, so in a meeting, I told the requester that I may be able to help another way. So my boss said, when will that be done?
I feel that my boss was being unfair by putting me on the spot like that. I am appalled over my boss saying something like that. Overall, I walked in to a very long list of projects needing to be done, many that have been sitting waiting for 2, even 3 years. That is unheard of. But her rudeness and lack of support for me, is the reason. Sorry this is so damn long. I too have been in this position as have the hundreds of others of posts I have read, studied and internalized. My view is less than popular but it is the most satisfying and really, the only one that works.
I advocate violence. Ahh before people jump up in arms, I cite that verbal abuse, derogatory remarks and generally being an ungovernable jerk IS violence of a non-physical type.. What I have read is that there is no end in sight for good employees and it is getting worse. Documenting: useless at best; I have documented 3 years of bullying and harassment and in the end, they just let me go anyway, not wanting to deal with it.
They also found an arbitrator that was clearly on their side from the beginning bought and paid for by the government. Unions: horrible entities that are purveyors of this bullying themselves. Remember, they will fight for you so long as they have nothing to lose; but since most union reps are IN the workplace with you, they dont want to lose their jobs either. Witnesses: Useless. I took the matter into the hands of the only one I could trust …. So I became a prick. I mouthed off to my boss at every opportunity, citing how stupid he really was, often in front of his colleagues and mine and reveled in the uncomfortable air resulting.
I turned around and walked away. The ONE conversational dynamic you are able to correctly interpret! And it felt good to recapture some control of this situation that had spiraled from under me. I ended up having to be moved to a new division in another city and ended up retiring early anyway as the whole place was poisoned. The work world is stupid, flawed and in needs to be destroyed before it can work properly again.
I agree with you on a lot of what you said. But first, my condolences on what you thought was a good woman but turned out to be a hooker. You are spot on with this. Alliances can create a delay tactic, but only buy time before the inevitable. You correctly refused to sign something that incriminates you.
I currently refuse to sign their crap unless its to pay me money. The part I love, is that you recognized that he was a bully and game player and good for nothing, and called him out on it. The leaning on the desk part was excellent if there were no witnesses. Bullies are cowards and you intuitively recognized this. They want to win rather than be even handed, no matter how petty.
The management above your boss impressed me as just as big an ass as the bully. For me I am close enough to retirement , only a year away, that I am just laying low for now, but I still see the director walking by looking for some dirt on me. He pressures my immediate supervisor to be rude to me as well. The director will be gone by the end of the year and he knows it, but has started a grass roots campaign to gain support for upper management to keep him past December 31st.
He will not be able to due to politics.
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As each month passes by I tape the previous month up on the wall behind my desk so that as it gets closer to December 31st, he will see more and more months of the calendar that have passed. I have calendars everywhere in my office for my own subtle passive aggressive middle finger for him every time he walks by.
When you stand up to a bully, not necessarily with violence, I agree it works every time. The best tactic on a bully is to deny them sanction. For example if they say something in front of others, they are relying on the sanction of the others to protect them from you saying anything. He sought revenge against me on a trumped up write up a few months later that I refused to sign, and he has been pretty quiet and sullen since then.
I came in looking for an answer to my situation and you have given the strength to face my boss the right way. I have worked for a boss for 20 yrs, who has been very good to me in times of need, but has no sense of how to treat and appreciate a good employee. Never sits down to discuss an issue with the employees but quick to humiliate in front of other. I have talked to him about but he has never taken the road of conversation or meetings with employees. When ever an error is made he jumps quickly to insult the person. I will not meet with him as I have done it many times.
Of course I am a good nurse, yet she keeps nagging at me. I feel like a failure, I just feel pressured, and angry. Is tjis abuse? I am tired of crying. Rose, Do you have an HR department? It sounds like it might be time to get them involved. Also, make sure that you document everything. I hope the situation gets better for you soon! I think there is a lot of good advice here. Document everything. Also not sure where you are. Also are you part of a union?
California Postdocs are unionized. If so, you should contact them for help. I would think twice on going to HR. I had a put-down and a very rude manager last year, and I knew that my days there were numbered. I asked her not to speak with him because I feared any reprisals. Well, she did exactly the opposite and contacted him. When I came back from a 5 weeks paternity leave I was laid off.
They hurt my self-esteem to much and took time to recover.
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It looks like you learned your hr lesson, i. They are NOT there for you. Companies like these fail over time. When I look back at my young life at all the places I worked, not one has survived, except McDonalds, which has done a good job of cleaning its act up in its treatment of employees. They failed because of dynamics like what you describle. A company cannot survive which treats its employees shabbily. The boss cannot be an ass. This is a formula for failure. No disrespect, but advising someone to seek help from HR is poor advice.
HR typically supports management, and the employee often suffers worse. To think that HR looks at these issues through objective eyes is nonsense. No, the best course of action is to immediately contact an attorney and have the attorney contact upper management. Be sure the attorney includes in the conversation buzzwords such a racial and gender discrimination.. Rose I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you I can certainly empathize because I am currently going through the same thing except my boss is an immature passive aggressive and down right cruel 20 year old whose step mom and dad are above him and I have no where to go and this is why I am trying to find another job as fast as I can to get out of there before I have a nervous breakdown.
I have a child to support and literally cant afford to quit or I would. I am praying every night for a new job to quickly come along. I hope that things get better for all of us out there who go through this. Nepotism sucks!! I feel for you.